What makes us happy?
The other day I purchased a comfort chair for my reading corner , I was very excited and waited for the chair to be delivered .
It’s been a few days now that I have the chair , it’s good to have but the excitement of having it has now gone.
This happens every time , a packet from Amazon arrives and I am happy and excited to open it.
But within a few days the excitement is forgotten.
We do feel that when we get things we will be happy, but when we get those things there is momentary happiness and then we shift to the next thing.
We do feel if we reach somewhere we will be happy, when we are in school it is college , when it is college it is the dream job in the dream company , when we have the dream job it is the promotion.
It always seems to be the next thing or the next place that will make us happy.
It seems happiness is an outside job. Some thing has to happen, or we have to get something, then we can be happy.
But what if we don’t get that thing or what if we don’t reach where we wanted to go?
We would be unhappy?
Also with this approach to life the person who has the most would be the most happiest , is it so ? Do we see that in life.
Scratch beneath the surface those that seem to have everything may not be as happy as you think.
Social media pictures are certainly not the depiction of reality.
We put out the best pictures, and then we use filters to make our pictures look good.
We take the glamour of stars as real and we start chasing dreams to be like them , we create idols and we worship them , we become fans.
The heroes we worship are fragile because life is fragile.
Advertising lures us with things and the way it does so is by telling us , we are not ok. What we have is not enough.
We then chase excitement in things. We want to feel ok , we want to be like the stars , we want others to see us , appreciate us , maybe put us on a pedestal.
We want to be in the spotlight, or we feel so , everyone is watching us .
No one is , everyone is selfish, focused on self.
Ask those on a pedestal how afraid they are.
We feel excited chasing things. Have you experienced the excitement of getting something new ?
During the pandemic when non essentials were out of reach we did feel restless .
Yet we survived on the essentials , we found our pleasure in other things , like spending more time with family.
I have come to the realisation that we are constantly in chase , always feeling a gap.
It is almost like being on a treadmill that does not have a stop button, but also does not take us anywhere.
We keep running but we are at the same place , yet we keep running all our lives and then one day we drop dead.
Yet we keep chasing, the chase seems to be exciting, till it lasts.
Till the time we are and we are chasing there seems to be excitement, we hope this thing if we get it we will be finally happy.
We get it , we get there , there is momentary happiness then again the gap then again the chase.
Happiness I have come to realise is not out there, somewhere in the future.
It has got nothing to do with the outside.
Happiness is an inside job and it is certainly not in the destination.
It is not the destination, but the journey that matter.
It is not the things we own , but the moments we live that matter.
It is not what we get but what we give in the world that matters .
It is not what the world thinks but what we feel that matters .
Happiness I have noticed when I have gratitude for what I have.
When I drop the chase I start living. When I don’t seek spotlight I am most alive as me.
There is no happiness out there it is just there where we are.